Everyone dream a fairy-tale wedding. As the old saying goes, marriage is definitely a major life event. I think although modern people put their work and success before marriage, once they make up their mind to get married, they turn to be really serious and thoughtful in this matter. I don’t know that is the reason, but for some reasons, wedding custom in Korea has been twisted in the wrong way. A few days ago, I saw news saying that almost couples in the middle class get a loan(big big money) to prepare their marriage. (A house, wedding ceremony, etc) Unhappy marriage starts here. After finishing wedding ceremony, a married couple struggle for paying money back to the bank, and unfortunately a loan rate goes up and their life become worse because they can’t save money at all. A woman in news said she and her husband can’t imagine having a baby and they can’t afford to handle childcare expenses. What causes this problem?
It is really complicated to explain with only one reason and it goes with many social issues together. I just want to mention one of my thought. Presenters said an average age of people getting married has gone up. I believe one reason is the high expectations about a marriage and to meet that expectation, both men and women have to work and save money for a long time. The thing is even though people really try to save money for ten years, it is impossible to buy a house in Seoul. Some women expect that their future husband have an apartment in Seoul, not a lease and not a small one. And, the closer it is to Kangnam-gu, the better. In Korea, usually a man prepares a house to live, so I’m so sorry to them. Then, are women happy? No, they also should have a lot of money for home furnishings and wedding presents to the bridegroom’s family, which cost almost 1,500 to 3,000 dollars. Are these things really needed for their happy marriage?
Of course, it would be good to have a fabulous wedding ceremony and prepare a luxurious house and home furnishing for the rich or some people who have enough money to meet their expectation. But, in reality, in most of case, it is impossible and there is a big gap between reality and ideals. I take an extreme case, but I didn’t mean that whole Korean wedding custom is wrong and a couple should start a marriage without getting a loan. I just meant that do not cross the line, and I thought it is pity that people follow the same steps just because others do and just because they don’t want to lose their face. I think it is wise to rid oneself of greed and deeply think what are really needed for one’s happy and successful marriage because a marriage is a really big event in life.
As you said, marriage is a big event in our life. So I entirely agree with your opinion. The average-marriage age goes up, because they have to save money for marriage.. It is sad reality i think.
답글삭제I agree with your opinion. We need to have attention in reality. We get married with marriage partner to be happy. But if We have a loan, We will not be happy. We need to think why we get married.
답글삭제when we get married, we should spend too much money, So We will be debtor before we start having baby. that's tragic.
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